3 types of buyllying

Types of manipulation
To look at this section more closely we must first define what manipulation actually is. The dictionary can provide many explanations of this word but here we will describe it as;

"An act upon a situation either mental emotional or physical, which the outcome is desired to be changed from that which it was expected to be"

Manipulation comes in many forms but here we will describe the 3 main types.

1. Physical
Physical manipulation is the most pertinent of all manipulation because if it is done against our will it can literally destroy our sense of power. If when we are small and an adult picks us up, this may be perceived as a loving gesture and create a feeling of connection, however on the other hand if the child is trying to escape for fear of being beaten by an angry adult and the adult grabs the child whilst laughing, the sense of power is destroyed in the child leaving a feeling of helplessness. This feeling if buried as a belief may still continue to be a belief even if the person is more than capable of defending themselves when they are a adult.

2. Mental
This area can be likened to that of confidence. The mind at the end of the day is the only resource we can use to observe the world and as we see reality through our beliefs rather than reality, any questioning of our minds ability can lead to a devastating effect on our growth. Internally we will know the difference between right and wrong, but if as children we are forced (risk to our survival) to do something against our justification, the mind itself will be manipulated by itself causing great inner backlash. We can observe this in the "parent idolisation model" and when a person starts to question their own reference of the world in a grab of security they will reach out for support from others and remain dependent until the cycle is broken.

3. Emotional
Although this may appear to be very alike the mental manipulation it is in a different category. As the mental manipulation is in the confidence section this then leaves the emotional manipulation to dwell in the self esteem section. Our emotions (or how we feel) drive us to desire to connect to others and form happy harmonious relationships not only with other but with ourselves. An dis-harmonious act upon this from other as we are a child may again lead us to question "is it safe to self express" if we feel it is not safe, again we may start to look to others for that support or totally reject others (over independence) but both ways are rejection of harmony. One of the main emotional manipulations that a person could be placed under is that of guilt, guilt is a particularly crippling emotional manipulation and one that is the most common as it is so effective. Guilt literally creates a self attack on the person through a fear that they have done something wrong and therefore what they have done may cause them loss. This fear gives the person nothing to fight against and therefore leaves them as their own prisoner. When a person is like this it makes easy target practice for bullies and other manipulators.

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